Anger Management and Violence at Home.

By Colin Jones

How is anger management connected to domestic violence? Well, put simply, most people that abuse their spouse in this type of situation, are angry due to some anti-social disorder in their subconscious mind. Anger is one of the leading characteristics of personality disorder, which include paranoia, schizophrenia, schizoid, antisocial, psychopathic, histrionic and sociopathic personalities.

Most of the people that are abusive in relationships have antisocial personalities. The antisocial personality type often attacks when he or she is drunk or under the influence of some other drug. This is not true in all instances of course, but it is true in most. Antisocial personality types often disregard rules and regulations and often feel they have the right to do so. Antisocial personality types are controlling and if you do not conform to their authority, they often vent their anger in a controlling or violent manner.

Anti-social types will often humiliate, intimidate, brutally physically abuse and mentally belittle their spouse, but the domestic abuse does not usually stop there. This type of individual has never proven to be likely to respond to anger management techniques. In other words, men that batter their wives will usually continue to do so until someone gets seriously injured. It is not a good idea to get involved with this type of person, as there is rarely any hope at all of them controlling their anger. This type will often beat a spouse, until they only want to kill them. This means someone could die, since this sort of person will become angrier and angrier as the years pass and will rarely ask for anger management help with their domestic violence.

Even if he or she does get anger management help for domestic violence, it often fails. It is not recommended to start a relationship with this type of person. The signs are an unkempt appearance or wild expressions, laughing for no apparent reason, laughing at a situation where a person was injured, outbursts of anger for no reason et cetera. This type of person is superficial and will often lead you to believe that he or she is a model for society, when behind closed doors the brute appears.

Of course, hatred is the underlying cause of this person's rage, and hatred has been known to kill. Often deep-seated jealousy also underlies the anger issues within these types of people. Many of these angry people take drugs, like cocaine, crack, marijuana and others. They often exceed the safety limit for alcohol consumption and this only increases the odds of them flying off the handle.

An example of bad anger management and domestic violence can be seen in a small town called Dowagiac in Michigan, where a man tried to kill several women but was still allowed to walk the streets. Little anger management help was provided to this person and often his relentless attacks were simply because he felt that he could not control his partners. The victims did not get any justice and a few even believed that they could change his angry ways.

Within a short time, he was sitting in the county jail on a number of charges, including assault of a police officer and hit and run. The police, according to witnesses, claim that the criminal had had a weapon and was drunk when he tried to elude arrest and marijuana was found in his vehicle. This person had a continuous history of violence but the justice system let those victims down, which led to more anger management problems.

Another example of anger is in borderline personality types. These people when feeling alone will attack others. Sometimes they are physically abusive, while most of the time they are verbally and mentally abusive. All the spouse has to do is go to work and when he or she returns home, most likely she or he will be accused of something.

The abusive person might even call the workplace of the spouse numerous times to verify that he or she has not run off with someone else. This is another type of angry person that rarely recovers, and like the antisocial personality types, these types are just as dangerous and manipulative.

Paranoid personality types are also dangerous and manipulative but their anger is almost impossible to predict. In most cases, these types react to voices heard inside or outside their head. Like the antisocial types, the paranoid type seldomly has justifiable reason for their behaviour. Usually, it is just a control issue. This means that if the victim is uncontrollable, the paranoid person will react angrily and violently. - 29881

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